Women are outperforming men in America. Women are going to and graduating college at a 60% clip to the men’s 40%. Women are outpacing men in homeownership. Women are less likely to commit a crime, less likely to lie, less likely to be dependent on alcohol, less likely to abandon their children, and are more emotionally understanding of others. Women on average have fewer sexual partners and are less likely to cheat. Still, women’s excellence is so often belittled.
With all of that going in favor of women, why do so many still favor men as leaders over women? The United States elected a womanizer, sexual abuser, and objectifier over an Ivy League-educated lawyer, district attorney, senator, and vice president in Kamala Harris. Why? Well, the answer is obvious. It is simple. America is sexist. American culture has two sets of standards: one for men and one for women. If a man is successful, it’s because he worked hard and did what needed to be done to get to that position. But if a woman is successful, it’s because she used her body to coerce men into giving her things. We saw this in 2024 when a rumor spread that Harris only became the DA because she slept with Willie Brown. This rumor was false, and the DA is an elected position, not an appointed one. Still, people ran with it. But no one said a thing about Donald getting handed $400 million throughout his life.
If a man cheats or has many sexual partners, it is considered cool or at the bare minimum not shunned by his male counterparts. But when a woman does the same thing, she is labeled as a “slut” or “whore.” If a man is aggressive and confrontational, then it is just the nature of who he is. But if a woman is that same thing, then she is labeled as a “bitch.”
Single mothers are often shamed because “they made bad choices of who they sleep with.” But a man is not shamed for being a deadbeat who left behind his kids. If the woman chooses to abort the fetus, then she is a murderer. If she chooses to keep the kid and go on welfare so she can be with the kid, then she is a bad mom. If she chooses to work to be able to pay for the child and puts the child in daycare for hours, then again she is a bad mom. If the woman takes child support from the man, then she is coming after the man’s money. The mother takes all the heat, and the man lives shamelessly.
OnlyFans models are shamed for making money legally off advertising their bodies. The one woman is shamed, not the thousands of men who are giving her the money. Without men paying, the model would not make money. Still, the woman is shamed and the men go without any accountability.
When opening a comment section talking about how women are buying more homes than men, the comments say things like “it’s because of the OnlyFans models” or “it’s because of all those divorces.” These claims show that toxic masculinity is still apparent. Most of these women are hardworking with college degrees. They are not all models or divorced. Furthermore, divorce is 50/50, so that would not add to women outpacing men. Still, men aim to belittle women’s excellence.
Women are more likely to be emotionally and physically abused by men in relationships. Men know that women oftentimes feel emotions deeper than they do, and many men see that as a tool to manipulate and dominate the relationship. But that behavior, as weak and small as it is, is not shunned by other men and is almost found as funny or amusing.
These double standards even start early on in school. Dress codes tell girls they can’t wear anything that exposes their shoulders, but these schools do not tell their young men not to stare at women or to respect a woman’s choices in what she wishes to wear.
Men are also significantly more likely to commit sexual assault, but many times a woman does not come forward. Men cannot understand that just because they do not come forward does not mean that it did not happen. There are many psychological and social reasons why women do not say anything. Then when they do come forward, men say it’s because they want attention or they want to ruin a man’s life, despite it being estimated that only 10% of allegations are entirely false.
These are just a few of my observations as a man on our double standards of women, and I’m sure women have even more things they could point to as being unjust. It is not the time of the Salem witch trials anymore, where women who didn’t stay silent, who stood up to men, and who were successful on their own were accused of being witches and burned alive. But it’s time Americans stop holding women to different standards, and to embrace female excellence, to accept that the patriarchy needs to fall.
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